I wasn't raised in a "traditional" family, and by that I mean with a mom and a dad in the home. My parents separated when I was about 8 and from then on my mom raised my brother and I, by herself. I never got to come home from school to have my mom there to greet me with a smile and a hug, or to come home to the fabulous smell of homemade cookies or fresh baked bread. Bummer. I really feel like I missed out on a lot.
And by that I mean that I missed out on the opportunity to learn how to be a homemaker. It feels so very unnatural to me to stay home all day long doing the dishes, laundry, vacuuming, dusting, cleaning the bathrooms, taking care of my kids, etc. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE being a stay-at-home mommy and wouldn't trade it for anything, but it just feels very unnatural. I never learned how to cook many good meals, or how to do simple crafts. I'd love to learn how to sew simple outfits for my daughters, or how to cook more good meals that my family would enjoy. . . sounds fabulous, doesn't it?!
I caught a bit of Oprah the other night and a chef on there was teaching a family how to cook on a budget, and with that he showed them how to make "baked nachos". WHAT? Baked nachos? Tony LOVES nachos, I could do that! Who knew you could tear up corn tortillas, stick them on a pan & bake them to make homemade baked nachos!?! I had no clue that I could combine cheese & milk in a pot to make my own cheesy sauce for pasta!?! I was totally in awe and actually learned some pretty cool stuff!
At least I'm learning. I'm super organized by nature and am thankful for that. And because my mom had to work 2 and 3 jobs to support my brother and I by herself, I was depended on to keep the house clean. It's just the other simple stuff that I would love to do. I hope that I can learn some of these great simple things to teach my daughters... so that when it's their turn to be wives and mommies, they never feel as inadequate as I do.
3.12.2009
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My Mom did stay home with us, but I still feel very unprepared to be a homemaker/stay-at-home mom. I'm always reading blogs and watching TV shows trying to learn new things. I think that its such a huge job that its normal to feel inadequate at times.
I don't think that you have anything to worry about. You are like the best mom ever! Your mom was also great at a lot of things that other typical moms weren't like being tons of fun! Now you have all of those good qualities to add to.
And you are looking like such a cute prego chick! I still have a prego belly even though there isn't a baby in it anymore. Yours is way cuter!
I am the same way... I just don't feel natural doing the homemaking thing... It is getting better though. A little at a time.
I was raised in a "traditional" home- dad worked, mom at home.
But that doesn't mean I got homemade bread or cookies either!!
AND- I didn't learn how to be a "homemaker" either! I STILL don't know how to do any of that stuff. I can't cook! I can only microwave! So don't feel bad about that! I think we all just kind of learn as we go!
You're doing a great job- and you can learn a lot from the older sisters in Relief Society too.
And one of these days, when I get married, I'll be calling YOU for advice!! :)
Don't beat yourself up too much. I happen to know that you are a much better homemaker than you give yourself credit for. Remember, you are your worst critic and your husband and children are your biggest fans!
I totally know what you mean! Josh had to teach me how to use my sewing machine, lol. I'm terrible at housekeeping, though I'm pretty good at cooking. After 10 years of being married, I think I'm finally starting to hit my stride. I just strive to keep on learning as much as I can and love my kids as much as I can. Keep up the good work. If anything, your kiddos will know how to live on a budget, which is more than most adults in the world can say.
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